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A Little Help

  • Posted on July 14, 2013 at 10:24 PM

So, the good news is that I’ve successfully wrangled my book back on track despite the fibromyalgia and the upheaval of summer, graduation, and a bigger vision of what I want to offer to the world. My book is going to be an important part of that new vision, too; so, I’m even more motivated to get it written, polished, and published.

Unfortunately, I was a little too successful in breaking myself away from my freelance work. The time has come when I need the help. Luckily, I have a platform that makes that possible.

There are many ways to help and even a little bit of help can go a long way!

  1. If you can give, please do so. Even $5 can make a big difference!
  2. Whether you give or not, please connect to your social media sites through this page and share my campaign with your family, friends, and casual acquaintances. Feel free to customize the message you share.
  3. Please leave a comment on this same page to raise awareness of my campaign on the hosting site. Even a little bit of attention might be just what I need to catch someone’s attention.

And that’s it! That’s all you would have to do. So, please help me make this fundraising campaign a success!!!

THANK YOU!!!

The Thing About Help

  • Posted on September 3, 2012 at 8:00 AM

I’m not sure this is going to work, but I’m going to try. People like to ask me “How do you do it?” Part of the answer is that I get a lot of positive support and assistance. I have a pretty awesome support network. The key there, of course, is the positive support.

Part of that is being surrounded and accepted by a lot of great people. But that alone isn’t enough. In my experience, you have to teach people how to help you. Because the help people want differs from person to person, from family to family, from need to need.

There are a lot of people who are great about offering their assistance and their support. This is great! But, the thing of it is, this often comes in the form of “The Golden Rule.” They offer the assistance and support they think they’d want if they were in your shoes. Usually, they’re not in your shoes. And they are most certainly not you.

But here’s another interpretation of “The Golden Rule.” Instead of offering what they think they’d want, they can offer the respect they’d want, which translates into giving (to the extent that they are willing and able) you what you want, which is what they’d really want you to do.

This brings us to another problem. They don’t know what you want. They don’t know what help you need. They don’t know what would work for you. So, you’ve got to tell them! This works best if you take the pressure off. Don’t make it: DO THIS, DON’T DO THAT! Start a conversation. “I know you’d really like to help, and I could sure use it, so why don’t we talk about some things I can use some help with and we’ll see if there’s anything you’d like to do.”

Of course, this assumes you know what you need. There are times when you don’t. But start the conversation anyway. Exchange ideas. Find what works for the both of you. If they really want to help, they’ll work with you on finding helpful ways to help.