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Some Good News

  • Posted on October 29, 2012 at 8:00 AM

On Sunday, when I was on my way to doing something, I was stopped by Ben, sitting on the steps, fussing over his Kindle. Somehow or other he’d gotten on a Google page that was requesting he choose a language and he was frustrated because he didn’t know how to make the page do what he wanted—which was search for something fun to look at.

I tried to help him and he pinched me.

This surprised me.

If you’ve been reading my posts for long enough, then you know that Ben has behavioral issues. He’s aggressive. He throws tantrums regularly. He pinches, bites, kicks, hits, pushes, and otherwise misbehaves regularly. He’s gotten suspended for school for these behaviors.

But that was last year.

This year he’s going to a new school, with new teachers, new students, and a whole new approach to his programming.

I’ve been so wrapped up in Willy’s epilepsy and so wrapped up in Alex’s lack of progress and so wrapped up in the onset of bullying and so wrapped up in working on my book and so wrapped up in being sick from all the stress and poor sleeping habits that I didn’t notice that Ben’s behaviors had changed, not consciously.

Then, he pinched me. And it surprised me. It surprised because it had been a regular occurrence, and it surprised me because it was no longer regular.

Wow. This is big. This is huge!

And I almost missed it.

On Thursday, when I attended his school conference, I also learned something else surprising. Ben is now reading sight words at grade-level. That’s the phrase his new teacher used: “at grade-level.”

Perhaps this seems like a small thing, but none of Ben’s other teachers have ever used “at grade-level” before, because none of Ben’s other teachers thought he could do anything “at grade-level.” Obviously, he can!

And this is just the first conference at the new school! I wonder what he’ll be doing next?

Welcome to Spring Break!

  • Posted on March 21, 2011 at 9:02 AM

So, the boys have this whole week off from school.

What does this mean?  Well, it means that all usual weekday schedules are disrupted (both mine and theirs) and that Alex and Ben will be spending more time together than they usually do.  Have I mentioned lately that Alex and Ben don’t really get along?  See, they both persist with their aggressive behaviors and they both are usually interested in the same activities.  So, they fight.  A LOT.  I mean, they physically fight with each other—pinching, biting, pushing, hitting, kicking, tripping and so on.  It’s not pretty and I don’t like it.

I also have one new client with a fairly big project (Web site copy) in the works and more work available if this goes well.  Very exciting for me!  Plus, I have a prospective client coming to meet me today.  At my house; in my home.  This usually wouldn’t be a problem, because I schedule these meetings during school hours.  But there’s no school, thus no school hours.

It should be an interesting week.  In years past, the transition from school to no school to back to school has been rough, but this winter break went very well.  So, I’m hopeful that they boys will make the necessary adjustments with little fanfare.  But, then there’s that whole fighting thing and the fact that my success in obtaining a new client may depend on how well my children behave in the background.  It’s a fact of life, sure.  I’m used to it, yeah.  But…there’s still that anxiety humming just loud enough to distract me.

Wish me luck!