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To Organize (Part 3): Getting to Work

  • Posted on July 27, 2010 at 12:52 AM

First, I wrote about how prioritization and balance between important and urgent goals is necessary for my organizational process.  Then, I wrote about how I need a system to put things and projects away.  Now, I will write about how I go about accomplishing the things on my to-do lists each day.

Obstacle 3: There are so many things to do, and so little energy to do them with.

This goes back to the spoons theme:  My energy (and yours) is always limited, and some days it’s more limited than others.  My energy also varies during different times in the day.

Along with limited energy, two other finite resources affect my ability to accomplish tasks.  One is my ability to concentrate.  Unfortunately for me, sometimes having energy doesn’t mean I’m able to concentrate.  Sometimes being able to concentrate doesn’t mean I have energy.  The most mentally challenging tasks have to be completed in those periods of time where having energy and being able to concentrate intersect.  The other finite resource is time.  This is significant, because there are tasks that are time sensitive and those that are not.  For example, today “call re: Alex’s teeth” was on my to-do list.  I didn’t get to it before 5:00 PM.  Therefore, it had to be bumped to the next day.  I cannot schedule a dental appointment for my son after 5:00 PM.  A complicating factor is that I have very little awareness of the passage of time while I’m doing something.  As long as my energy and concentration holds out, I will not notice as the minutes run into hours.  This is why I didn’t notice the time until it was too late to make the call.

Managing my to-do list with finite energy, finite concentration, and time-sensitive tasks requires its own degree of organization.

Solution 3a: Prioritize the Day

The first thing I do with my to-do list is I number it.  There are little boxes, courtesy of my Franklin-Covey planner in which I place the numbers in the order I intend to accomplish specific tasks.  This order is very flexible.  As the day progresses, I do not necessarily do things in the original order.  This depends a great deal on the speed with which I accomplish my tasks, my energy, and my ability to concentrate.  That being said, there’s a method to which I put things in order.

I start my day with some very low-pressure activities.  In the first one to three hours my ability to concentrate is minimal—I do NOT jump out of bed, ready to tackle life.  I’m more the fall-out-of-bed-and-stumble-down-stairs sort of gal.  This might have something to do with consistently getting inadequate sleep, but I think it also has to do with the jarring nature of the transition from sleep to wakefulness.  I think if I could sleep once a week and be good for the rest of the week, then I’d save a lot of time “wasted” on transitioning from sleep to wakefulness.  But, alas, sleep is something I need almost every day.  So, I start my day with easy-to-accomplish activities.

Then, assuming I got at least 4 hours of sleep, I have a period of high-energy/high-concentration that lasts anywhere from two to five hours (depending on how much sleep I got, how noisy things are, and a myriad other factors).  This is when I do my mentally challenging tasks.  Today, I spent that time working on a professional resume package.

Furthermore, to maximize this time I also give myself brain-off tasks interspersed between mentally challenging activities.  This is when I do things like wash dishes, vacuum, and wash, fold and put away laundry.  These activities require physical energy, but little mental effort.  I don’t know why I have more productive time when I flip back and forth between mentally invigorating tasks and mentally tedious tasks, but I do.

Then, I have a fall in energy and the ability to concentrate.  At this point I’m back to relatively simple, sedentary tasks.  This is usually where I do something like take notes on my writing studies (not my homework), go on Facebook, read a book, or watch a movie.

After a break of this sort, I have a rise in concentration or energy, but usually not both.  I either do mentally challenging work or finish household chores, depending on whether I get the energy or the concentration.

Then, whichever it was, I get the flip-side of that of that particular coin and do whatever tasks relate to this side.

Finally, during the wind-down part of my day, I’m back to the simpler, sedentary tasks.

The point is not that my pattern should be your pattern.  My point is that by recognizing your own pattern, whatever it may be, you’re more likely to maximize both your productivity and your effectiveness by scheduling your tasks in accordance with your own energy/concentration ratios.

Of course, you can always supplement with caffeine, ginseng, or other boosters to help you stretch out your energy, your concentration, or both.  But, if you do that too much, then you get rather dependent on those things—trust me, I know!

Solution 3b: Color-Coding Keeps Things in Order

One thing that should be clear from the description above is that while I only maintain two lists each day—the household list and the professional list—there are sub-lists to each of those lists.  I distinguish these sub-lists by color-coding.  For example, my tedious professional work is written in black.  My high-concentration work is written in red.  My writing—referring to my novels, short stories, and my book—is written in purple, not because it’s not high-concentration work, but because it’s easier to make myself do it and therefore less urgent.  Other less urgent work is in blue.

For my household work, the colors are different.  Black marks the things I have to do at my writing desk (i.e., the desk my computer is NOT at).  Red marks the things I have to do at my computer desk.  Blue marks chores, which usually have to be done outside of my office (unless the chore is to clean my office).  Green marks things I have to do outside the house.

Obstacle 4:  Getting to Work

By organizing my to-do lists in this way, I have a tenuous plan for the day.  But, it’s still only a plan.  To implement that plan, I actually have to get to work.

This can be difficult.  On really bad days it can seem impossible.  Sometimes I overcome the feeling of impossibility.  Other times I don’t.

And that’s okay.  I give myself permission to have bad days and you should, too.

Solution 4a:  Mark Up Your Progress

I start my day by checking my e-mail.  I don’t necessary do anything with the e-mails I received, but I do take stock.  It’s like a warm-up exercise before going for a run.  After that, I choose one thing on my to-do list—usually my prayer journal—and highlight it in yellow.  This means it’s something to tackle right away.  Then, I go and read from Daily Guideposts and my scriptures, respond to what I read, and write down a prayer.  After that’s done, I use a green highlighter to highlight over the yellow and put a check mark in the box.  It feels good.  My day is officially started. 

As my day progresses, I choose what I’m going to highlight yellow next based on my energy/concentration ratio.  The highlighting helps me focus on only a few of the many things I need to do at a time.  I try not to have more than four or five things highlighted in yellow on a side.  Sometimes, when I’m having difficulty concentrating, I keep it down to one or two things in yellow on a side.  And seeing the accumulation of green highlighted lines is very gratifying for me.  Of course, the pesky orange highlights—those items I’ve put off until a different day—can seem rather sad, but sometimes that’s necessary.

I use highlighters and colored pens because they’re bold and bright and they stand out.  It’s easier for me to see those things I want to see—like the next thing on my to-do list—without getting overwhelmed by all the other tasks.  It takes a bit of training to see the list this way—at least, it did for me.  But with practice, the green and orange lines are “gone” from the to-do list, except when I want to see what I’ve accomplished and what I’ve already put off.  While I’m working I can glance at the yellow lines and know what I’m going to do next.  It keeps me on track and it keeps me working.

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What Are Accommodations?

  • Posted on July 17, 2010 at 9:25 PM

For anyone out there waiting with bated breath for my third post on organization, I must apologize; this isn’t it.  I got distracted—not a good commendation for my organizational skills, but there it is.

Recently Astrid wrote a response post, on which a certain blogger made the claim that accommodations are insufficient for people with LF autism.  (I’m side-stepping the debate on whether HF/LF is a fair and reasonable distinction.)  Instead, I will jump right to the part where the example cited by this individual—which was intended to demonstrate the inadequacy of accommodations—included accommodations as a means of achieving a satisfactory outcome.

This implies to me that “accommodations” is a word that is flung around far more often than it is understood.  So, what constitutes an accommodation?

Let’s go back to our friend, the dictionary:

ac·com·mo·da·tion –noun

1. the act of accommodating; state or process of being accommodated; adaptation.

2. adjustment of differences; reconciliation.

3. Sociology. a process of mutual adaptation between persons or groups, usually achieved by eliminating or reducing hostility, as by compromise or arbitration.

4. anything that supplies a need, want, favor, convenience, etc.

5. Usually, accommodations.

    a. lodging.

    b. food and lodging.

    c. a seat, berth, or other facilities for a passenger on a train, plane, etc.

6. readiness to aid or please others; obligingness.

7. a loan.

8. Ophthalmology. the automatic adjustment by which the eye adapts itself to distinct vision at different distances.

9. accommodation bill.

Take a close look at definition 4:  “anything that supplies a need, want, favor, convenience, etc.”

If a person can’t communicate verbally, providing them with a Picture Exchange Communication system is an accommodation—it supplies a needed means of communication.

If a person can’t walk independently, providing them with a cane or a wheelchair is a form of accommodation—it supplies a needed means of mobility.

If a person can’t shout loud enough for somebody in the next state to hear them clearly, providing them with a telephone with long distance service is a form of accommodation—it supplies a wanted means of communication over long distances.

If you change a situation (whether that involves physical or procedural change) to satisfy an unmet need or want, or to increase the convenience of a situation, you are providing an accommodation.  If accommodations were provided to individuals with disabilities, their potential would not be hampered by the same limitations they face without accommodations.  The crux of the accommodations argument, in my opinion, is two-fold:  Do we prioritize accommodations sufficiently to meet the needs of members of our society?  Do we prioritize the design and development of accommodations sufficiently to meet the needs of members of our society?

Accommodations could be used to assist every individual in our societies to succeed if appropriate accommodations befitting our technological development were designed and distributed to those who need them.  Even in socialist countries this does not occur—neither the design nor the distribution—because individuals who need such accommodations are not sufficiently valued to justify the expense.

In short, by raising the value of individuals with disabilities (acceptance) and advocating appropriate accommodations, I seek to enable individuals with all abilities to live up to their potential.  For some, the accommodations they need will be easily come by.  Others will need more accommodations—perhaps even accommodations that do not yet exist.  That does not mean that accommodations are, in and of themselves, inadequate to meet the given needs; that means we need to improve our design and distribution of accommodations to meet the existing need for them.

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To Organize (Part 2): Putting Everything Away

  • Posted on July 13, 2010 at 1:06 AM

In my previous post, I wrote about how prioritization and balance between important and urgent goals is necessary for my organizational process.  After I figure out all I have to do, the next most important thing is having an “away” to put both things and projects.  First, I must note that having an understanding of what you want to accomplish and what is important to you is essential before you determine how to go about putting things away.  The decision of what constitutes away will depend a great deal on your priorities and your personality.

Obstacle 2: To put things away, you must have an away in which to put them.

While this seems pretty straight forward, it isn’t always so.  It can be tempting to resort to clutter piles.  I certainly do!  The problem with this is that if the clutter piles never get sorted, the tasks buried in the clutter piles rarely get accomplished.  Furthermore, documents you’ll need later are harder to find when needed if they’re not stored properly.

That being said, some vague “aways” are fine.  Just don’t use them to avoid work that needs to be done.

Solution 2a: Make an “away” for things.

Living in a materialistic culture like the U.S., families tend to accumulate things.  There are those who avoid this.  We are not among them.  My family is given many things throughout the year—toys, books, clothes, ect.  We are also sent things like bills and documents to fill out.  We collect movies, books, and games.  We are not as attached to things as our culture tends to encourage, but we have many things and they all need to have an away in which they are put.

So, the first step to organizing your things is having an away in which to put them.  In order to determine how many aways and what kind you require, you have to consider your priorities.  For example, we have a playroom where we keep the boys’ toys.  There is a big toy chest that is full of rarely used big toys.  There is a smaller toy chest that is full of often used big toys.  There are two bins for stuffed animals and two bins for plastic toys.  There are also smaller bins for particular sets of toys.  I used to be rather, um, compulsive about how to put all the toys away.  This compulsion didn’t help the boys find their toys—which was how I justified it—and they didn’t appreciate the effort I put into it.  So, I stopped.  It took a lot of effort, but I stopped.  The effort required to put things away where everything was sorted was too much work and too little benefit.  Take care to avoid activities that require more effort than the benefit they generate!

When putting things away, you have to decide how much sorting is necessary and limit yourself to that degree of sorting.  Is it enough to put all your books on book shelves or do you need the books arranged in a particular order?  The answer will depend on your needs and your priorities.  The same question can be asked of any set of objects, but only you can answer it.

Solution 2a: Make an “away” for projects.

While there usually are objects associated with projects, projects are categorized differently.  What kind of projects do you have?  If you are like me, many of your projects are ideas.  Between the computer and a filing cabinet or two, I can store most of my projects.  But I also have drawings, index cards, and other items to arrange.

The trick to arranging projects is to have a set of places for each kind of project.  I use cork boards to put long projects-in-progress on display.  I take a sheet of paper, make an envelope out of it, and store notes on index cards in separate “envelope” for each segment of the project.  I also sort projects (ongoing and past) in file folders, in/out boxes, and the like.

There are many systems you can try.  Or you can mix and match systems to create your own unique system—which is what I do.  The purpose is to be able to find everything you need for any project you wish to work on and to keep projects-in-progress safe from destruction.  Whether you use stacks of labeled shoe boxes or a tidy set of trays, you can organize your projects in any way that works for you.  This may involve some trial and error, but you’ll find that all that effort was worth its while once your system is up and running.

 

Organizing your work takes time.  Sometimes that time can be hard to come by.  However, the effort you put into organization saves you even more time in the long-run.  Of course, now that we’ve talked about the processes of organization, there’s still one piece missing.  How do you turn that organization into accomplishment?  That’s the topic of the next post!

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To Organize (Part 1): Finding Balance through Prioritization

  • Posted on July 9, 2010 at 4:20 PM

Being organized is a constant struggle in my life.  It’s not that I’m particularly unorganized, but there are several obstacles that make it more difficult.  The next few posts will be about obstacles and solutions—or how I manage to stay organized and productive.  (People have been asking that question again:  How do you do it?)

Obstacle 1: I have more to do than I can actually get done.

At first glance, this will seem like I take too much work upon myself.  There are those who would argue that’s exactly what this means.  It isn’t so simple.  Work needs to be done.  A lot of this work is simply mine—for example, nobody else can do my writing or my school work.  That’s mine to do.  A lot of the work needs to be done, and I’m just the one who is sure to get it done.  This includes much of the housework and household administrative tasks.  Again, it sounds like this is me taking on more work than I should, but the work I take on each day is only a fraction of the work I could take on each and every day and still leave plenty for the next day.

Being the “big picture” person that I am is a major complicating factor.  I see work on three different levels.  First, there is the work that requires years of daily or weekly effort to accomplish.  Raising my children, continuing my education, writing my books, writing my novels, running my business—these activities involve years’ worth of work.  And I see all this work laid out before me.  I don’t see all the little details that go into these major tasks, but I do see many of the major steps along the way.  This work never ends—at least, not while I am alive.  So, no matter how much I do today, there’s always more.  These are long-term goals that require a long-term commitment.  At this level, organization is primarily used to keep me from being too overwhelmed.

The second level of work is those mid-term goals.  This work includes teaching my children specific skills, completing my current class, planning my current book, writing my current novel, and managing and completing my current business-related projects, assignments, and tasks.  This level of work includes projects and assignments that will provide me with sufficient daily tasks for months to come.  Some projects or goals are longer in scope than others.  All require a significant amount of organization to keep me on task.

The third level of work involves daily, weekly, and monthly tasks.  Household management tasks generally fall into this category—though there certainly are those mid-term and long-term household-related projects that weigh on my mind as well.  Many of these third-tier tasks, whether they are household-related or business-related, are on perpetual repeat.  No matter how many dishes I wash today, there will always be more dishes to wash tomorrow.  No matter how many blogs I visit today, there will always be new posts to read tomorrow.  That sort of thing.  Organization is primarily a prioritization task in this arena.

Solution 1a: Find balance by breaking goals down into tasks.

With three layers of tasks, there is a certain balance required.  I could fill day after day after day with third-tier work.  There are people who live their lives that way, and live them quite contentedly.  I’m not one of those people.  I like progress; I need accomplishments.  I by no means wish to belittled people whose lives are contentedly lived on the third-tier.  There is something admirable about that—and their households certainly run more smoothly than does my own.  But I’m not particularly skilled at the domestic round, nor am I particularly contented with it.  I need to write.  And I need that writing to accumulate into big projects—books, novels, collections of short stories and articles and blog posts.  And, of course, I could fill day after day after day with second-tier or first-tier work, at the exclusion of all else, but then my family life would be chaotic.  I mean, more chaotic than it is.

So, we’re back to balance.  In order to live my life well, I must balance first-tier, second-tier, and third-tier work.  Generally speaking, I regard second-tier work as the highest priority and third-tier work as the most urgent.  First-tier work is accomplished by breaking it down into second- and third-tier work.  In order to write my books, I have to start by writing my first book.  In order to write my first book, today I must work on the outline of my first chapter.  Another example:  In order to help my children achieve independence, I have to build a set of skills.  In order to build that set of skills, I have to work on this with Willy, that with Alex, and the other thing with Ben.  In short, in order to attain balance, I have to break down each tier until I have a lot of third-tier activities.  The difference, of course, is that now many of these third-tier activities will accumulate into the accomplishment of second-tier and first-tier activities. 

By breaking down first-tier and second-tier goals into third-tier activities, I find myself back to having more work to do than I can actually get done.

Solution 1b: Prioritizing tasks to equal accomplishments.

With so much third-tier work to do, I must prioritize the many tasks into categories of importance and urgency.  The hardest thing is not to be so driven by urgency that you neglect important things.  I could easily fill my days with urgent matters.  The problem is that by spending my time solely on urgent matters my tasks would never accumulate to the achievement of my goals.  I could easily fill my days with important matters.  The problem is that eventually the neglected urgent matters would eventual compile into an unimaginable monster that consumes me—or I’d trip over that one toy out of the hundreds on the floor that I couldn’t dodge, fall down the stairs and break my neck.  Either way it’s a “game over” for me.

I don’t want to be consumed by the urgency monster and I don’t want to have to dodge toys all the time.  So, we’re back to balance.  I balance important tasks, urgent tasks, and tasks that just need to be done whenever I have a spare moment (these tasks are often neglected until they become urgent).

To do this, I plan my week and create daily to-do lists.  Daily, color-coded to do lists.  This is where effectively managed OCD becomes a good thing.  Really.  This is also where I become especially grateful for tools like a Franklin Covey planner and Microsoft’s OneNote.

Then, of course, it’s just a matter of getting to work.  Easy, right?  Hm.

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On Engaging and Atypical Communication (Post 3 of 3)

  • Posted on July 3, 2010 at 11:38 PM

In my first post I introduced the concept of engaging and how it relates to prejudice.  In my second post I discussed how failure to engage leads to miscommunication with people we know well.  Now, I will conclude this discussion by discussing engagement in regards to communicating with atypical communicators.

Recently I was reminded that I am such a person.  During my graduation party I was sitting with a circle of friends.  My husband, my mother, my brother and I were there along with another couple we’ve known for years and an old friend.  These are all people I know well, who I am comfortable with, and who know me in my many idiosyncrasies and accept me as I am.  This old friend and I started talking about a topic of mutual interest.  I became highly engaged in the conversation.  Without meaning to or even being aware that I did so, I focused on this gentleman at the exclusion of all others.  It wasn’t until he pointed out that our conversation was excluding everyone else that I became aware of this.  This wasn’t a “party” conversation and it was not appropriate to become so highly involved that I was not aware of where I was and who I was with.  Intellectually I know this, but I lack the intuitive sense that most people have regarding such things.  Whether he knew it on an intellectual level or an intuitive level, he knew he would have to break open the conversation to get me to re-focus.  He did so without making a big deal out of it or making me feel foolish.  The other people knew me well enough to realize I did not mean to exclude them and did not take offense that I had.

This example shows engagement on multiple levels.  I was very much engaged in that conversation, but I was not engaged in social context I was in once the conversation had begun.  Whereas my friend was engaged in both the conversation and the social context; he was also engaged with me as a person to the extent that he knew I couldn’t pull back on my own.  And I need that.

Adapting to my means of communication requires effort from others; however the amount of effort it requires is relatively small.  I talk like an intellectual.  For the most part, I use proper grammar when I speak and I use the words that are appropriate, whether or not they are commonly known.  I also have focus issues.  All of these represent barriers in everyday conversation, but the barriers are fairly easily overcome.  If you tell me you don’t understand, I will tone down my language.  If you tell me I’m excluding others, I will pull back and try to engage in my surroundings.  I am somewhat adaptable, and I surround myself with people who are able to accommodate me in my conversational short-comings.

There are, however, people whose means of communication are far more atypical than my own.  My son Alex is one such individual.  As a primarily non-verbal person, he is often left out of conversations and social interactions.  He’s very difficult to communicate with because he has a very limited ability to adapt his skills to converse with others.  It’s also difficult for him to engage with others.  This means that most of the “heavy lifting” has to be done by the other person.

In contemporary society, Alex’s communication challenges seem to be seen as putting an “unnecessary burden” on others.  Two ideas are inherent in this assumption:  First, other people are not obligated to put forth the effort necessary to communicate with Alex.  Second, Alex needs to be “fixed” in order to communicate effectively.  Another assumption is made—awareness of which seems even more fleeting—and that is that because Alex doesn’t communicate in a typical way and cannot express himself effectively in his atypical way, he doesn’t have anything to say.  The first two assumptions are negotiable—I don’t agree with them, but there certainly is room for intelligent debate on those issues.  However, the third assumption, the one people seem least willing to admit they make, is wholly and completely wrong.  Those people who make the effort to communicate with Alex on his own terms and within his own limitations will find Alex has quite a bit to say.  It’s difficult to understand, of course, but there is definitely a lively, thoughtful child “hidden under” the communication and social challenges.  Except that he’s not really hidden at all.  People perceive that he is hidden, because they filter out his attempts at communication and force him into a template of “those who do not communicate.”  He is there; they just don’t really see him.

So, now I’ve wandered back into the realm of stereotypes.  My point is not to decry those individuals who dismiss my son (okay, so that is a lingering point in much of what I write, but I do have another point to make as well), instead my point is that as a parent I do have an obligation to put forth the effort necessary to communicate with Alex.  So does my husband, his teachers, his doctors and his therapists.  This is non-negotiable.  While the rest of the world may be able to debate why they shouldn’t have to put forth this effort, while they may be able to hunker down and refuse to do so like petulant children; we can’t.

Now, I could go off on a long tirade about how some parents don’t accept this obligation, or how there are far too many teachers, doctors, therapists and caregivers who neglect their obligation to communicate with the people in their care.  But I won’t.  Perhaps I’ll do that at a later time—maybe when I have a better idea how to fix that problem.

Instead, I will return to how engaging is work.  Communicating with someone who communicates a little differently, such as myself, requires a little more work than the average engaged conversation.  Communicating with someone who communicates in a manner significantly different than your own, such as Alex, requires a lot more work than the average engaged conversation.  Except the average engaged conversation is itself a rarity.  More often we simply interact with templates instead of engage in conversations.

For a long time now I’ve known that communicating with Alex is something like speaking to someone in a foreign language you don’t really understand.  It’s a learning process full of fits and starts.  It requires a lot of effort and sometimes I’m simply not up to the challenge.  But I force myself to try, because Alex needs me to make that effort.  Recently, the gentleman who was so good at prompting me to be more inclusive in our conversation at my graduation party was living with us.  He put a great deal of effort into learning to communicate with my children.  He also commented that learning to communicate with my children taught him a lot about communicating with other people as well.  This struck a chord with me, because I have discovered the same thing on my own.  Recently, my husband Mark commented that he found it very difficult to interact with Alex.  While he was referring to play, communication is a big part of that—and that communication is the biggest challenge for Mark.  Mark has been able to connect with Willy and Brandon very well.  He’s also able to connect with Ben, though sometimes it seems that this is because Ben is so fascinated with Mark that Ben overcomes his own challenges to make the connection happen.  But a similar connection with Alex eludes him as the communication barrier still looms largely between them.

I guess my point is this:  As much work as it is to communicate with someone who communicates in an atypical manner, the rewards for those who make that effort are often much bigger and much grander than communicating successfully with that one person, though I’d say that’s a pretty big, grand reward all by itself.  Make the effort; it’s worth it!

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